Hi,
It is very difficult to develop any form of "real" relationship on an on line basis. It's a great place to meet someone - but if it goes too far by way of the CPU - you'll likely discover the relationship is lagging in other areas when you finally get together. If you would like to at least get the ball rolling, I'd suggest you follow the lead of the only person that "weaseled" his way into my heart from an on-line basis this past year: "Michael".
I met Michael in a tg chat room this past year. Our on line friendship lasted longer than one letter for a variety of reasons, including:
We had a lot in Common - Most admirers assume the fact I'm a t-girl - and you are attracted to t-girls - means we have something in common. It means little. As you look though a gals home page, I'm quite sure you are trying to discover "any" point of common ground - if she's a "knock out". However, you will likely only have a "chance" - if there is real "common ground".
He didn't focus on the "t-thing" - I know I'm a t-girl. You know I'm a t-girl. My entire home page talk about t-girls. Did it ever occur to you I might get sick of talking about t-girls? Michael talked about life interests, hobbies, outlooks, politics - and our mutual family ties (we both have Labrador retrievers). We talked about transgender issues - but not right off the start.
He responded in kind - Nothing is more discerning than writing a long letter to someone, only to have them answer a major question with "yeah, me too". Michael took the time to share as much of his detailed feelings on items I obviously considered important.
He kept things moving forward - Sometimes an on line friendship reaches a point of "where is this going"? Busy people like Renee have little time to "waste". Constantly bring up new discussion issues, ending letters with questions, and a great sense of humor that made his letters a pleasure to read played a key role in singling himself from the pack.
He kept "beauty" as a footnote - Like any gal, I enjoy hearing I look good in someone else's eyes. But so many letter's focus on a constant triage about "how this I am" or "that I am" - and they don't know me from Eve. It really leaves me no place to go in responding. I know I'm not perfect (well, almost perfect) - LOL) Making me feel like I would need to be to be around you - is not very appealing.
I ended up meeting Michael during a trip to New York City in 1999. Unfortunately, I was tired, sick, 8 lbs overweight, and running very late - so I wasn't much fun. I still owe him an enjoyable night in return for his hospitality - and a beating - for dumping that psychotic DRAG Queen bartender in my lap who made certain I got no sleep back at my hotel room. ::)).
- Renée
It is very difficult to develop any form of "real" relationship on an on line basis. It's a great place to meet someone - but if it goes too far by way of the CPU - you'll likely discover the relationship is lagging in other areas when you finally get together. If you would like to at least get the ball rolling, I'd suggest you follow the lead of the only person that "weaseled" his way into my heart from an on-line basis this past year: "Michael".
I met Michael in a tg chat room this past year. Our on line friendship lasted longer than one letter for a variety of reasons, including:
We had a lot in Common - Most admirers assume the fact I'm a t-girl - and you are attracted to t-girls - means we have something in common. It means little. As you look though a gals home page, I'm quite sure you are trying to discover "any" point of common ground - if she's a "knock out". However, you will likely only have a "chance" - if there is real "common ground".
He didn't focus on the "t-thing" - I know I'm a t-girl. You know I'm a t-girl. My entire home page talk about t-girls. Did it ever occur to you I might get sick of talking about t-girls? Michael talked about life interests, hobbies, outlooks, politics - and our mutual family ties (we both have Labrador retrievers). We talked about transgender issues - but not right off the start.
He responded in kind - Nothing is more discerning than writing a long letter to someone, only to have them answer a major question with "yeah, me too". Michael took the time to share as much of his detailed feelings on items I obviously considered important.
He kept things moving forward - Sometimes an on line friendship reaches a point of "where is this going"? Busy people like Renee have little time to "waste". Constantly bring up new discussion issues, ending letters with questions, and a great sense of humor that made his letters a pleasure to read played a key role in singling himself from the pack.
He kept "beauty" as a footnote - Like any gal, I enjoy hearing I look good in someone else's eyes. But so many letter's focus on a constant triage about "how this I am" or "that I am" - and they don't know me from Eve. It really leaves me no place to go in responding. I know I'm not perfect (well, almost perfect) - LOL) Making me feel like I would need to be to be around you - is not very appealing.
I ended up meeting Michael during a trip to New York City in 1999. Unfortunately, I was tired, sick, 8 lbs overweight, and running very late - so I wasn't much fun. I still owe him an enjoyable night in return for his hospitality - and a beating - for dumping that psychotic DRAG Queen bartender in my lap who made certain I got no sleep back at my hotel room. ::)).
- Renée
